Showing posts with label LWT. Show all posts
Showing posts with label LWT. Show all posts

Saturday, June 29, 2013

A continuous thread

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I ate more oranges when I was a child than I do now, I think. We did not have a tree, but instead were showered by Phyllis Rope, up the road, which I would bring back in the wiremesh basket on the front of my scratchily yellow 'Malver Star'. Perhaps it is my memory playing tricks, but fruit was different way back when, less bountiful, and certainly less varied. We had apples, and oranges, and for part of the year, bananas. Pineapples came in a can labelled 'Golden Circle'. The vaiety seemed to come in apples alone, with the choice of Jonathon, Delicious, or Granny Smith.

With my trusty red pen knife, I would sit on the back step, and endeavour to slice around, and around the orange (mostly Navels, but Dad liked the occasional Valencia), trying to keep the peel,equal in width, but NOT broken. I have only just realised how much concentration this must have taken. Of course, the orange tasted better if I could manage this, probably the bitter tang of disappointment was the missing ingredient! With the tip of the blade, the remaining pith was teased from the fruit, a thumb shoved into the nether regions, and the segments (?) exposed.

I am teaching Alannah the variety of apples and pears, just as my father taught them to me, he being an old 'barrow' man. She likes Packham pears, but knows that Beurre Bosc exist. I will go over to Harris Farm and see if I can rustle up perhaps a Naashi, or a Williams, or a Winter Cole, or even, perhaps, a Josephine.

Ohho, would Dad be chuffed!

Sunday, May 1, 2011

Old and grey and full of sleep, nodding by the fire


I wasn't ready. I had been warned, but it didn't sink in. A picture IS worth quite a few words. Upon occasion.

He fell within the first week of my being in Paris. My daughter did not just act in my stead. She thought more widely, and deeply. Not dispassionately, but with a firm sense of process. This is the new normal.

He does not know who I am. There is no cognition. Very little, or none. Tomorrow he will undergo an ACAT assessment with the view to be classified High Care. If he were to be assessed on the Mini-Mental scale, he would struggle to register. At all. Less than 10 shows significant dementia. The great bulk of the population scores between 20 and 30.

On Wednesday possibly, he will return to his nursing home, but to the dreaded Second Floor - God's waiting room. Not that he will know. He still has a taste for chocolate.

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Struggle street


Twice in the last two weeks, he has not wanted to get out of bed when I arrive. I succumbed on Tuesday, and we talked about when he dies. He doesn't want me to walk in and find the room empty. I assured him that would not happen, that I would be sitting right where I was as he died. This comforted him, to some extent.

He asked me if he would know, and I said probably not. I told him I would not be sad, because I know dying is what he wants. I can be loose with the truth when necessary. He thinks it tough to be in 'here' without his family round. How does one tell him, one reaps what one sows?

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Generational change


Kirsten drove us over to Northbridge today to visit my Uncle Gordon who turns 91 on Thursday. He is my father's older brother. His wife, Murielle, was 88 in the middle of August. They live together in a house they purchased in 1964. They have recently had rails installed throughout the house.

This was the first time my father, Laurie, who is 89 had met his great-grand-daughter, Alannah. Kirsten took some great footage of him singing to her cuddled on his lap. It was an interesting morning tea with ages 91, 89, 88, 62, 31 and 0.

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

So, challenge him ...


He used to play Rummikub with friends, and I used to play it with the kids. So, now, I take our set down with me. We go out on the second floor verandah, we have whatever fruit I take (he likes white nectarine, green grapes or watermelon) with me, I clean up and then we have a game. Just the one. All up, I am there about an hour.

Friday, February 12, 2010

Birth family


I guess "the boys" come to Sydney about twice a year. Barry turns 65 this year and lives in the hills outside Wauchope, and has done for well-nigh 30 years. Ross turns 60 this year and has lived in the same house in Newcastle for about 35 years. I am in the middle and, as readers of this blog will know, move at least annually. Dad will be 89 this year and has an older brother who will be 91. Of us all, Ross is the least healthy.

Saturday, September 19, 2009

I'm just a kid again


As I was trimming his hair, he tried to explain how he could not remember how to recharge his shaver and had not shaved all week ...
later, as we shuffled down to the car, he could still join in with some of the words:

When the red, red, robin
Comes bob, bob, bobbin'
Along, along,
There'll be no more sobbin'
When he starts throbbin'
His old sweet song.

Wake up, wake up you sleepy head,
Get up, get up, get out of bed,
Cheer up, cheer up, the sun is red,
Live, love, laugh and be happy.

I'm just a kid again, doin' what I did again,
Singing a song,
When the red, red, robin
Comes bob, bob, bobbin' along.

I commend to you my Hands post tomorrow ... his energy waxes and wanes ...

Monday, January 19, 2009

Selective listening or hearing


I knew I was in strife when the audiologist told me that someone with normal hearing would score 100% - I could not believe how soft the sounds were.

The beeps and blobs and gurgles were a piece of cake in comparison, although it turns out that the long quiet spots were not him clicking to the next file. When he started to say words for me to repeat I was quickly exhausted: hunching over in the soundproof booth, eyes closed, concentrating like my life depended upon it.

The result was moderate loss, requiring aides for both ears. Bitch, bugger, bum as they say in the classics! A bit like araldite, he mixed two types of gunk to make a cast of my ear and whilst that set he ran me through a computer simulation of how an ear works and how I have lost quite a few of those little hairy things that work a little like cat's whiskers.

What style do you want? Which one works best? Stands to reason that it is the ugliest one. But your hairstyle will cover it completely. Do I look like a vain woman? What prices am I looking at? Well most people are a little surpri ... bottom line, bottom line, bottom line. Bloody hell ...

But that is for the pair! Oh well, that makes all the difference then ...